As the toddler ages, the kind of issues that need to be addressed also changes. The second year started on a tougher note. Zoey needs to be potty trained (my pressure on my self), we need to get rid of her bottles (doctors pressure on us) and we need to teach her social skills.
By nature, Zoey is not much of a people person at this age. I am sure, come school days and hopefully this will change for better. But for now, shes very happy with her people, her things and her space. She likes meeting kids her age, but shes very choosy about the people she wants to hang out with…well, arnt we all?
Since Zoey managed to sit up, we have been teaching her things. manners to be precise. No matter how differently opinionated a couple we are, as parents good manners is our first priority. I dont know how successful we have managed to be, but I guess we are getting there.
Yesterday Zoey had a friend over. Surprisingly, they both got along really well, mashallah. But it was towards the end that her friend started pinching and pushing her. Bullying to be exact. Zoey didnt know how to react. She came to be, all upset. And I tried patching things up.
But it got me thinking of how I need to train her to react to such situations. Her phopoo, strictly told her to hit and pinch back whenever needed. Her dad was also of a similar opinion. Somehow I dont think thats the way to react. But again, I am not the right person. I was never bullied, in family I was not supposed to use my hands with my younger cousins and in friends i dont remember it coming down to this.
This is one of those situations, where babycenter.com wont help, and parenting books will be a total time waster. But if you are reading this an are a parent, what do you suggest. If you are not a parent and still reading this, I woul love to hear your opinion too!